HomeForumMariaHaydenPhoto GalleryOur TownhouseCritter Cam!Contact UsWebMail Login:Email AddressPasswordLove Hurts!2014-05-29 - It has been almost 4 months since my wife moved out for a 2nd time in the past 4 years, we just celebrated our 14th anniversary.   Her telling me she was moving out, came after I thought it was odd that she moved $800+ from our saving account.   I had told her a few months before to take money out to help pay for new tires, dog fixing, etc.   She told me that that money was for vacations.   It was just odd that she texted me that she did it months later.  So later that week I asked if something was up.  She said that she “was done”, “through”, etc.   Then she said she didn’t want to be in a relationship where there was no respect for each other, I had no respect for myself since I was overweight.   I didn’t clean enough around the house, etc.  After our talk it was clear that she had already told the kids that they were moving out.Most of it stems from her feeling that I’ve lied to her.  It all seemed to start one day when she was vacuuming.  Our dog, Pepper, was barking and she said I made a fist and hit Pepper.   I was on the other side of the dinning room table, the table has a cabinet underneath it.   So I’m not sure how she could have seen anything.   I told her that I never made a fist; yes I hit Pepper with an open hand on her snout and told her no, but I NEVER made a fist and punched her.   I know what I did and She knows what she saw?  So that started our impasse, how can both of us be right? Later my lying came up again.   Sheryl and the kids were going to her sisters house in Wisconsin, leaving before I came home from work.  Well everything was working out at work and so I left early to goodbye to everyone, to give them hugs and kisses before leaving.   Most of my coworkers that I work with in my group knew my plans, and plans for the weekend.  As I got closer to home I texted Sheryl of my plans to see them off.  She was already at the bus stop to pick up Hayden and head out, so I met the there.   It turned into how I lie to her, She asked says to me “why don’t you tell me the real reason you are here”.   I told her, to see them of, tell them I love them.  I was told I was lying.  That our son had told her I was going to St. Cloud to get a speaker from the Best Buy store.  I told her I had no plans of going there that night.  That I was going to do that in the morning.   I didn’t want to rush up there and drive back in the dark.  Well I was lying, as she told me.  I told her to ask anyone at work my plans if she didn’t believe me.   She tells me that they would all just lie to her, because they are my friends.  No matter what I said, she wasn’t going to change her mind.   I honestly was there to tell them I love them, give them a hug and kiss, and see them off.I know I’m not the best guy, not the smartest, etc, but I’m also not the worst guy, or the dumbest.   Yet I never seem to be able to make my wife happy.