Bitzer.orgSearchPrimary MenuSkip to contentAboutSearch for:Generalliving vicariouslyImageJune 7, 2014 beccaLeave a commentI had babies.  I feel like the four babies that I had were a lot of babies.  I’m all babied out because the day to day of baby raising makes one tired after 16 years of it.  I’m glad that I get to still have babies in my life.  My sister is doing me the valuable service of having babies just at the time when I am done so that I can still have a baby to huggle and snuggle.  Tonight Victoria and I got to keep this little guy.  After he got over the shock of Mom and Dad leaving he decided that he likes us.  He really, really likes us!  He didn’t scream at us.  He smiled and babbled and even laughed a time or two.  He went to bed by 8:30 and according to his Mom he’ll pretty much sleep the night through.  Life is pretty good.Generalthe new normalJune 5, 2014 beccaLeave a commentI think that the new normal is busy.  It seems like the only acceptable pace for life is really really fast.  I called my sister today and wanted to stop by and chat and eat ice-cream.  She was busy doing something.  I don’t fault her I often am in the exact same situation.  My other sister emailed me that we’d have to change dinner plans we made over a month ago for three weeks from now.  She had something else to add to the schedule.  The next available option was more than a month from now and I couldn’t do that because of course I’m busy so in a month and a half we have a dinner date calendared.  When I want to see my parents we often schedule things a week or more out because they’re busy too.  We’re all busy! I sometimes feel when I talk to people that I am unsuccessful at life if it’s not complete full of scheduled activities.  I don’t really like it to be that way.  I do like feeling successful though.  Hmm, what’s to be done?Today I was at an appointment and looked out the window and saw three children rolling down a hill.  They were just hanging out, laughing and rolling down the hill.  I remember doing that.  My kids don’t really do that.  They have play time outdoors most every day but mainly with each other.  When they are with friends they are pretty much doing activities that an adult has organized in some way.  We go on field trips, we go to playgrounds, we hike.  We even do things that might appear to be spontaneous but mostly they’re planned.I think that I need to plan times where I don’t plan anything.  Maybe if there is scheduled times that don’t have anything at all then we’ll be more spontaneous?  Of course people still won’t drop in and visit and I won’t drop in on others because well, you know, we didn’t plan it ahead and that would be rude.I have a sense that this isn’t the way the world used to work.  I think that people used to have a lot of unscheduled time and they just found ways to fill it.  I thi